At 82 years young, Barbara Banchik is just about the toughest cookie I’ve ever met. In the face of a suggested knee replacement, she chose sailing over sitting and still managed bring home the gold. In so many ways, she has proven the type of person that lives life like there’s no tomorrow. She is a true inspiration and a wonderful new friend.
Speaking of friends, Leon Paley is Barbara’s closest. I’ve learned sailing on Wednesdays would not be the same without him, especially as she usually crushes him for first place. When I visited their home, I found it endlessly charming and brimming with fond memories. It is no mystery this story is a happy one, but by looking deeper I learned only two birds who love themselves can each other another just as much.
**UPDATE** Barbara finally had her knee successfully replaced in early 2018 and is back on the water winning trophies and kicking some old-school butt!
New York, NY, USA. January 2017. A behind-the-scenes narrative of a video shoot with NCLR’s anti-conversion therapy campaign, Born Perfect.
An exploration of the male personality as its reflected in personal space
GAYLETTER. Queens, NY, USA. September 2017. The world's largest queer drag and music festival.
GAYLETTER. QUEENS, NY, USA. SEPTEMBER 2018. THE WORLD'S LARGEST QUEER DRAG AND MUSIC FESTIVAL.
Nice to Meet You
Statistics show humans meet more than eighty-thousand people in a lifetime. But what about the individuals with whom we do not interact? When we encounter a stranger, we have the capacity to introduce ourselves, and despite the simplicity of interacting, many of us choose not to.
Someone once taught me we are most likely to accomplish something if we commit to it within five seconds, otherwise the thought passes. In life, we instinctively focus on ourselves and frequently forget about those around us. Without a second thought, those who are unfamiliar to us become the easiest to ignore.
If we allow ourselves a moment to pause and reach out to those around us, we uncover the rich detail and color found far beyond the first few pages.
If we take a moment to pause, we can say, “Nice to meet you.”
RuPaul's DragCon NYC 2018
GAYLETTER. NEW YORK, NY, USA. SEPTEMBER 2018. The mecca of all things drag.